The World is NOT Law and Order Special Victims Unit - You Tinder Women!

"Media has been making a shameful and very inaccurate portrayal of nice guys like me for a long time now. Women have adopted the idea that these obsessive and stalking guys are some kind of common occurrence that is likely to happen to them."

This WAS a JOKE you Tinder women!

"Male gay friends of mine: DO NOT PHOTOSHOP this!"

"You whippersnappers!"

C'mon! Jeez. 

Damn you Tinder women! Jeez. You’re all a bunch of scaredy-cats now. Jeez. Tinder women: Your perceptions and your inaction on this hook-up app performed as extreme caution, are very likely ruining your chances of finding me and of finding a great love of your life. Jeez.

I’m a nice guy! Really nice! I’m handsome and have no kids and am practiced at relationships and I have not hurt anyone since . . . . well I really am not sure! After months on this app I have experienced rejection by the absence of hot looking women who won’t “heart” me, it’s the media! It can’t be me! My profile is honest and forthright and I’ve got 5 great pictures of me and Tuvok (my really cute dog). Jeez. The media and paranoia they create are ruining my chances of finding the right woman. I am not being selfish in this article; This diatribe that expresses my frustration with finding love and intimacy is also very relevant to your chances of finding love and intimacy. Get out. It is far safer out here than you have been lead to believe! Jeez.

Media has been making a shameful and very inaccurate portrayal of nice guys like me for a long time now. Women have adopted the idea that these obsessive and stalking guys are some kind of common occurrence that is likely to happen to them. It may be that I actually appear to be sort of like the crazy guy in the recent Hollywood bullshit story called The Perfect Man - or something like that. I saw the trailer for this garbage and the new perfect guy is hiding under the woman’s bed. I would never do that unless that was part of sexual role-playing! Jeez. Except I would have you hiding under my bed in that particular fantasy. Take a chance! A nice guy bio (on this damn thing) is more likely to be true than not. If a guy like me is taking the time and effort to portray himself as a nice guy - he very likely feels good about who he is. He is showing you his confidence that his portrayal is true. This is a truism. Get this please so you and I can find love.

“Contact is all it takes

To change your life to lose your place in time

Contact, asleep or awake

Coming around you may wake up to find

Questions deep within your eyes

Now more than ever, you realize

And then you sense a change

Nothin' feels the same

All your dreams are strange

Love comes walkin' in

Some kind of alien

Waits for the opening

An' simply pulls a string” Pull that string ladies. Love will not come walking in unless you open the door. Contact is all it takes. Contact is always kind of chancy. Jeez. Thank you Van Halen!

Tinder women; You will never find a sociological study that shows you the number of nice guys who can handle rejection. You will never find a slew of stories about happy meetings of seemingly perfect men who are stable and don’t make drama and don’t get obsessive. Just won’t happen. I’ve got no media advocates! Those stories are boring! Jeez. That scenario of a meeting a great guy who cannot emotionally handle a rejection from the object of his lust and desire is truly rare in our post-industrial and very politically correct and now stalker punishing society. Jeez. It is unlikely to happen to you Tinder Women! The world is NOT Law and Order Special Victims Unit! Jeez. Stop watching that bullshit. Get out of the house! Meet several guys and I’ll bet money they can handle your rejection! The field of wildflowers is abundant with nice guys like me who will not harm you! Jeez. Those evil nice guys are unique and rare and so remarkable and so chosen to be stories! You would not watch anything if they showed you what is common. What should be expected! This later statement is a rule to live happily by. It pertains to the real state of life versus everything you see on television and the bullshit that comes out of Hollywood. This also very much pertains to all news stories about relationships gone horribly wrong. Wake up and smell the roses! Jeez. Those are stories you have been tantalizing your fears with. You watch them so you can experience fear vicariously. You are glad when those stories are over because you honestly feel it won't happen to you. Think about that for a few moments. Your subconsciousness, what's biological role is to protect you is cementing those stories into your mind to possibly be cautionary real-life possibilities to teach you to be cautious. Being cautious is something you need to do as a compartmentalization, so that you can proceed into activities and then be genuinely safe in real life. Caution is good. I'm a very cautious guy. But I compartmentalize those imaginings as what may be and not what is likely. Please do the same. Your paranoia will overcome you and prevent great true love and intimacy stories! Jeez.

UPDATE: Evening: Then again I am living in Connecticut, USA. The women in this part of the United States are very much walking refrigerators. I keep forgetting this. I lived in California for a decade, where sexual hang ups are pretty much ancient history. A nice guy cannot even wave hello to a typical attractive woman on the street here, without her dialing 911 or scurrying off to get to safety. Usually a woman here will return a friendly hello with a "You pervert!" expression and run off like Little Red Riding Hood after her wolf encounter. Jeez. Get me out of here! Help!

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The National Academy of Community Policing is an Idea that's Time Has Come

Time to get serious about who our law enforcement officers are and get serious about a national standard for their training. 

The police should never be considered by any citizen to be an instant threat to their freedom and safety - if they are generally following the law. A cop should never have (or feel) he or she  needs to have the ever present feeling that each day may be his or her last day on Earth. No civilly legal confrontation with a cop needs to invoke a reaction of fear in anyone who feels they were following the law. Time for a standard and national and long lasting solution that addresses these needs NOW. How long are we going to allow regular people to become cops without first making sure they are great people? The answer of likelihood: Perhaps never if we allow the current direction and old standard of hiring all police to be a mishmash of individual community’s standards. Including, continuing to allow privatized police officer schools to operate and flourish. Including having individual state justice department's use many standards of acceptance such as “Has had firearms experience in the military.” Or, “Worked as a volunteer with the local Sheriff's department.” Or, “Says “He/she really wants to help people.”” We can’t possibly know who these cop “Wanna be’s” are inside themselves. We can’t possibly know all of their past behaviors that would reveal what they may be capable of, years later when adapted to the dangerous and dynamism of thousands of personal situations they will be in. We can’t possibly predict what type of person that genuinely a cop will become after years of service on-the-street. The role of a peace officer has been taken too lightly. We in the United States are some of the most impulsive and violent people on the planet. Our freedom results in this national personal we have become. We have among us nearly 150,000 firearms of all sizes and capacities floating about in private hands, uniquely when compared to all other post-industrial societies on Earth. We have a media which portrays frequently; people using violence to solve problems of domestic complexity. Most of us are capable of experiencing a temporary (or chronic) mental state that any good psychologist would agree “Needs to be addressed!”

It is time to begin a shutdown of every single police academy in this country and convert that system to an agreed upon national standard of complete training that awards a degree of excellence to every single cop in every single community in our larger community. Standards are the problem. Standards that are too relaxed or completely missing are what need to be taught to every single person who is charged with the responsibility of maintaining our safety and upholding law and order. The time to think about this was about 230 years ago unfortunately as is the case with so many problems within the United States. We have a mess of missing standards. Solution time: Many of us in the United States are of the opinion that local is always better.  As if a government that has a geographic center, in Washington D.C., cannot possibly know how to deal with an issue in Kentucky for instance. If you are a person who has had difficulty with the bureaucracy of a federal institution you may have adopted the opinion that locally is better in all things. I am of the former school of thought when looking at all the very local incidents that indicate what needs fixing in the United States. I am a “nationalist,” one might say. I am so because I have lived in five states as a citizen and I see the same problems in every state. I see that local standards are slightly different in almost any way they can be where the United States constitution allows for difference of standards, mostly in the justice system, are allowed to exist. Criminal justice is a stark example at this time and it has always been since the inception of this confederation of states. What we have in our criminal justice system in the United States is discrepancies in standards. Standards of both the rule of law and in the training of those whose careers are to uphold the rule of law. As a citizen of any economic walk-of-life in the United States It would be comforting to know exactly what to expect from one state to another or one county or one city to another. All of the cases of seemingly unlawful conduct by our law officers that we read about and watch on television news reporting are vast discrepancies of a missing standard of the enforcement of the law, spread out across this country.

A National Academy of Community Policing could bring about a standard of law enforcement that is a high degree of behavior that we citizens can all learn about and so know what to expect in every dangerous or every friendly confrontation with a law officer. It should be behavior of the cop and behavior of the citizen that we learn about beginning in grade school. We would be safer. Our cops could become people from whom we all know what to expect. A cop could then have a high and reasonable expectation that that a seemingly unruly citizen has learned this standard of expectation. A standard of behavior on both sides of the law is missing. If you do not see this, you have not been observing and then thinking about what is missing. Standards make us safer. Behavior that is taught is behavior that can be reasonably expected. The quality of police is reflective of the respect the public has for them and their practical value. We need to treat them well by requiring each to attend a 4-year Academy of Community Policing. We should commit to the concept and build 10 of them.

Here are some leading questions of which you probably have a reasonable answer:

How does a child with a toy gun behave when a police car is approaching and the cops are vocally yelling something at him or her?

What exactly can a motorist expect if he or she does not fully cooperate with a cop during the short time they are being confronted with the accusation of having made a traffic violation?

Is the life of any single citizen more valuable to any community than the life of any single law enforcement officer?

Should a law enforcement officer be expected to endanger his body when controlling a situation? Should a cop use his or her electric Taser or a club or use basic hand-to-hand combat training to “arrest,” or calm a situation when an emotionally distraught citizen is wielding a baseball bat yet know one has yet been harmed? Shoot to kill and ask questions later? Shoot to wound and ask questions later?

Should a state-sponsored prosecutor be the sole guardian and arbiter of a grand jury process when a prosecutor is a career-long friend of a local police department? My proposal requires we all see that the absence of standardization that focuses on “Great people before great cops,” has led us to have 120,000 cops of too many poorly trained people conducting too many civil rights violations upon citizens. I will not present evidence of this condition here. That evidence only needs to be seen and heard in nearly any city newspaper or electronic media in our community today. Enter: the National Academy of Community Policing. A vision of what the founders of this country would likely have written into our Articles of Confederation as integral to a peaceful society that uses a centralized government. If they had a time travel visual device with them in 1776. It is our task to use modernity correctly to adapt those founder’s dream to fit what they could not see - in our future. Imagine please: fifty of these academies of excellence distributed throughout the United States. An applicant to this academy has to be tested to get in. He or she will have to have completed many prerequisite courses, that are strongly emphasizing the study of the humanities, to have his or her application even looked at by academy admissions officers. Once in, the real study begins. The first year of training focusing solely on the peaceful and constitutional treatment of citizens. The psychology of people in a complex society, in variable types of local economies, will be taught and tested for. Several students may be booted-out after the first year as testing will be stringent and frequent and tough. Year two will be all policing. Full training of the correct methodology of dealing with all kinds of citizens. Field training that is closely supervised. A daily - six days per week, and weekend days, a regimen of people training and the intense grooming of themselves to be the great people they were tested in to indicate they were prior to the Academy. For a graduate of this proposed 2-year degree of excellence: Pride they earned like few civil servants ever get to experience. A certificate of graduation they will honor and be very proud of the rest of their lives. A degree of excellence proven they will never want to dishonor. A memory of mentors who taught them during the most memorable two years of their lives. The knowledge and clear confidence that they know the people of their community’s better than nearly anyone else. They will be cops that most anyone of any level of society will have confidence and no fear of talking to on the street or at their car’s driver’s side door at any hour of the day. The federal government needs to do this soon. Waiting and hoping that individual states and counties will incorporate true constitutional training and methods that train great people before attempting to train great cops - is something we don’t have the time for. That slowly evolving idea would take decades of the typical pattern of the citizens of the United States discovering what will be needed, and that is is needed at all. The first several years of graduates should be in hot demand by every municipality. Those early graduates will have the ability to rise in their communities to become leaders of the community. They will be first to be considered a great choice of Chief of Police, the Head Sheriff, the Commissioner, the sergeant, the captain of the precinct and so forth. After several thousand of these graduates hit the streets their value to their first served communities will become clear. We will then see funding for their continued hiring and placement increased. As citizens of one big nation, we will see the value of funding them from a centralized source. We will quickly agree this is money well worth it. We will begin to unafraid of a police confrontation. We will be confident and safe from fear of people we should never have been afraid of to begin with - the founders of this experiment in democracy had had a time travel visualization device when the concocted this great idea.

~~~~~ Cops are statistically terrible at physical confrontations, because they draw weapons in a majority of situations. I've wondered why they don't all have expertise in something like Kung Fu. The cost would be worth it. It would be taught at the Academy. ~~~~~

8/10/2016

Baltimore PD has gotten its ass reamed by the Justice Department. A systemic and almost innate pattern of bad policing and bigoted and discriminatory behavior has been documented well.


A community cannot trust the police when these behaviors are recognized by them. When there is no trust, fighting crime with the help of the community is nearly lost.

If there had existed several National Academies of Community Policing, there would be 2,000 graduates ready to replace the bulk of the entire Baltimore Police department and ready now. Unfortunately, the later solution is truly the only to correct this ingrained mess in that department. Change needs to happen fast in Baltimore. Not creeping adjustments, trying to teach thousands of experienced cops to have empathy and revert from their pattern of behavior is futile and will cause the people to not recognize the change because it will appear slow and there will be many who don't recognize the change, due to a slow and adaptive speed of change. We can't beat the ingrained psychology of these cops. Can't happen. Does not happen in the case of ANY human trapped in a pattern of bad behavior.

They must ALL BE REPLACED. All of them. Every officer, every chief, every sergent. I have no confidence that any other slow and adaptive way can fix the mess there. The entire department has to be REPLACED. Every single one of them. 

All of them.

~~~~~

Next: the clear need for real Traffic Cops. Cops who are not armed towers of fear invoking, armored gun wielding people - who have no other business than addressing your traffic or vehicle behavior and compliance with rules of the road. Or; people who cannot turn your traffic stop into a violent confrontation on the side of the road - unless they first back-off and call a graduate of the National Academy of Community Policing.

~~~~~

8/14/2016

You are understood #MilwakeeUnrest. Your lives are invaluable.




#endallsuffering #stopallsuffering #blacklivesmatter #justice #NoJusticeNoPeace #Martin 


2020; The Black Lives Matter movement is BORN AGAIN after another CRUEL, and RUTHLESS and RACIST ACTION is caught on VIDEO, and VIRALIZED.

Late 2020, California:

#PoliceReform !!

I can not endorse this ENOUGH.

It's like my timeline is read!

The male brain is not finished developing until age 25. Why give it a gun and unleash it with violent authority?

College first, creates great people who CAN BE GREAT COPS.

~~https://abc7.com/ca-bill-would-tighten-hiring-rules-for-new-officers/8649059/

https://twitter.com/EndAllsuffering

https://twitter.com/EndAllSuffering/status/1344432061940191232?s=20

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Political Science is Not the Practice of Theory

James Gray Mason, September, 2015

"Political science. . . . I have a Ph.D. in political sciences!" Politics is a social studies area - people. Far from any standard of actual science. Calling it a science is about the egos of those who want to appear “expert,” as public validation for their thousands of hours of looking at a 5,000 piece jigsaw puzzle with 500 difficult to define pieces always missing from the table. It is filled with thousands of factors that can never be accounted for - that it why it is fascinating to many people. It really is a historical study of human behavior. It is not even theoretical. Factually; calling a study of this guessing game “Political Theory,” is a falsehood. Political analysis is filled with predictive analogy that is conceptual. The study of politics is dependent on using the documented past behavior  An opinion writer who loves politics is mostly guessing. An analyst who thinks he or she can predict the future behavior of complex and ever-changing societies would like to think that those missing 500 pieces are consistent and will remain so - but those missing pieces are changing shapes from one day to the next, and even their colors. Because thousands of environmental changes among millions of people can never be studied enough to make accurate predictions.

In my country, the United States, a well-written book by a political analyst from just 15 years ago might as well be blank pages. The worth of that very time and culturally dependent viewpoint is only valuable for seeing the mistakes of the predictions of that analyst. These books are, however, very valuable for studying the history from one point of view of a person who has invested thousands of hours in observation.

Just listen to the exclamations of nearly every political analyst right now when discussion of what the American Republican party is going through right now; “Who would have thought, just 4 months ago that the Republican party would look like this?” The agreement with that surprise is all around. Because one billionaire with a tremendous sense of self-worth decided to throw a wrench into the works a few months ago. A socio-politico who can embrace our always changing nature might have been able to predict Mr. Hairdoo’s rise to false populism. Not some professor who has spent thousands of hours reading about the documented behavior of past voting populations. Not theory - speculative conjecture in attempting to predict the outcome of a 100 horse race where nearly every horse was raised and trained at a different horse farm, with a different trainer and different jockeys and different track conditions.

If you are studying what we are calling Political Science (very egotistically) - you are a futurist. If your speculation now is proven to have been accurate in several years, your success is very much like the success of a Tarot Card reader or a psychic entertainer. You knew the minimal odds of being right. You bet on those odds toward the outcome of being successful more than 50% of the time. That slight edge made you successful in your predictions in the minds of those who followed your speculations and saw only your right answers - in the aftermath of the outcome. You'll continue to get paid for your predictions if you can bounce around to enough varied media outlets. It would be in your best interest to not revisit your mistakes publicly - you would lose readership and not be called back for your opinions very often. The exception in the United States is that you are a regular political commentator on Fox News.

Humble down “political scientists.” A theory is of an outcome that can be continuously validated as consistently accurate. Theory is fact as we validate it to be. Not speculation that is just more than 50% accurate, by some people and mostly wrong by most. Mathematics is theory as best as can it validated it to be by testing and retesting the physicality of those numbers when those theories are finally put to a practical test.

To us flawed humans even our mathematics can be wrong after much certainty we are right. Several brilliant masters of advanced algebra have been later proven to be wrong. The math looked great and was agreed to be so by many peers who practiced the same methodology on chalk-boards. Wrong! Whoops! Even our solid theories can be later proven to be mistaken.

It is grandiose and fictitious to call the study of politics “theory.” It is the egos of the experts who needed a language to allow colleges to charge tuition's for many classes that resulted in advanced educational degrees of all letters to be awarded for thousand of pupils to feel validated as also being expert - at a social studies field of futurist predictions.

I submit to you a hypothesis: Attempting to continuously make politics a theory as if a science exists within that study is prideful arrogance of intellectuals who don’t want their many opinions to be considered futile when their lives are nearing expiration. Now test that hypothesis. Go ahead. It’s already been done but out of respect for those who try to be accurate we say nothing. We keep reading them and listen to their strenuous attempts because it is all we have.

~~~~~
6/22/2016

A science? Maybe for the people who invented the microchips that the programmers are using who are writing your algorithms based on your inability to keep up with culture, mass psychology, the arts, the lack of hope or the number of bloviating demagogues ready to pounce?

Testing your observations of nature have been very far from your boasted academic prowess. 

What is needed is a degree of esteem named SocioPolyPsych and with a minor in Hip Hop (or something similar). 

Geeez this could go on and on but you #polysci brainiacs don’t deserve it because not one of you can be found who proves the integrity of the label Science, in any academic degree. 

~~~~~

One day in a futuristic world where all beings in complex societies are physically hooked up to a massive central supercomputer, we may be able to genuinely predict the social behavior of populations that are politically dependent to function with efficiency. I do not look forward to that. Because it is entertaining to observe the observers who are right more than 50% of the time.

~~~~~

6/22/2016:

hmm. a new series developing that will have to be portrayed in tiny snippets for the internet attention deficit hyperactivity browsing public. The title of the series?:

What went wrong for Senator Bernie Sanders.

Know this readers: my predictions were public many months ago. I'm pretty pretty pretty sure you can find them. This series will extrapolate on those writings and the causality in reasons why they were made and why I knew with 90% certainty what would happen to his campaign for president of this greater country.

Point 1 (of many).

The aesthetics of the candidate.

Yes there are a shitload of very shallow people who make judgements about  people in a split-second. In your work or home environment, you have met one today.

Image for a meme: 10 or 20 young (youth is important for meme) African American people facing the camera. None expressing any interest. Collective cartoon thought bubble:

*"Oh not another old white guy. He fits my adapted stereotype of an old white guy. Part of the damn problem. He's a curmudgeon too! Seems like he's whining about his Ensure being late."*

All Rights Reserved (to editorialize): James Gray Mason, PhD (in WTF) 10/10/2015



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